The Screen

Wow! What a huge topic! Where do we even begin when we think about the incredible advancements in technology? From the amazing things we can accomplish to the endless entertainment at our fingertips, technology has transformed our lives in so many ways. But navigating this digital world—especially as parents—can feel overwhelming, particularly when our children often seem to know more than we do. 

Tomorrow, Tuesday 11th February is Safer Internet Day (SID). Around the world, schools and companies will come together to promote the importance of online safety. The internet offers incredible opportunities, but it also presents risks that we must approach with caution. Without awareness and guidance, the online world can feel like a daunting and even dangerous place. 

For children who have experienced developmental trauma, these risks can be even greater. Struggling to form relationships in person, they may be drawn to the digital world, where attention and interaction are instant. The sense of security they feel online can be misleading, making them more vulnerable to dangers. So, how do we, as parents and caregivers, help them navigate this space safely? 

Are We Good Role Models? 

A crucial question to ask ourselves: What example are we setting? 

• How often do we check our own screen usage? 

• What messages are we sending our children about screen time? 

• Do we set clear boundaries in our homes—such as no phones at the dinner table or screen-free bedrooms—and do we stick to them ourselves? 

Fear vs. Knowledge 

A mother of teenagers recently shared an important insight: When we discover that our children have accessed something inappropriate online, how do we react? If our response is rooted in fear, we may become defensive or irrational, which in turn can trigger our children’s own defensiveness. If we approach these situations from a place of knowledge and understanding, we can foster open conversations instead of conflict. 

Acceptance and Empathy 

Are we truly listening to our children as they navigate the online world? Are we setting boundaries with them rather than just for them? Are we showing understanding when our rules differ from those of their peers? At the heart of it all, keeping our children close and connected may be the most important thing we can do as they find their way in this ever-evolving digital landscape. 

These are just a few thoughts to consider. For more information, visit the Safer Internet Day website. 

What are our boundaries?